Personal Blogging
Why Do We Enjoy So Much Alone Time?
Jasmine Flournoy – December 23 2023
Since I was a small child I have always liked being by myself. That behavior hasn’t changed into adulthood. Going out with a group of friends to a bar at midnight really isn’t my style. Some of my friends and family really enjoy going out to parties, clubs and other events all of the time, but sometimes doing those things make me very nervous. So I often have to force myself to do it. Usually then I make myself go to events such as family reunions, or birthday parties, I come out saying to myself “I’m really glad I came.” It almost always turns out to be a good time. So why do I still get nervous being around groups? I really can’t answer that question. The truth is if I do go out, I prefer either a one on one hang out session or me with two other people, but a group will always make me nervous. After a few minutes in a group though, I’ll become more relaxed.
It is undeniable that prioritizing one’s solitude is both permissible and valid. It is entirely acceptable to have a genuine dislike to phone conversations and to seek solace within the sanctuary of one’s home. Embracing this preference can contribute to a more serene and authentic way of life. Embracing the path that aligns with our individual needs and values is of utmost importance.
I have come to realize that my happy place during my time of leisure is really just being at home, curled up in a blanket, drinking a good mug of cup, or just hanging out of my cats. Believe it or not, there may be people around you that may or may not take offense as to why you don’t want to go out with them, or talk on the phone all of the time. It can be hard to explain to some people, and no matter how hard you explain it, it still may come off to them as “you don’t like me” which can be far from the truth. Liking being alone is quite normal believe it or not. Below are my personal experiences on the positivities of alone time and why you may like being alone.
Reasons Why You May Enjoy Being Alone
When it comes to solitude, there are numerous reasons why one might find joy and contentment in being alone. Let us delve into a few of these compelling reasons:
1. Self-Reflection and Personal Growth: Embracing solitude enables individuals to engage in deep self-reflection and introspection. This uninterrupted time allows for introspection, self-discovery, and personal growth.
2. Freedom and Autonomy: Being alone grants freedom and autonomy to make decisions without being influenced by others’ opinions or desires. It allows for the pursuit of personal interests and passions, without the need for compromise or consensus.
3. Increased Creativity and Productivity: Solitude often fosters creativity and enhances productivity. The absence of distractions allows for concentrated focus, leading to enhanced problem-solving abilities and the generation of innovative ideas.
4. Inner Peace and Tranquility: Being alone can bring a sense of inner peace and tranquility. It offers a respite from the hustle and bustle of the outside world, providing the opportunity to find solace and balance within oneself.
In conclusion, despite the societal emphasis on companionship, there are numerous valid reasons why one may find solace and fulfillment in being alone. It is a personal choice that allows for self-discovery, growth, and a deeper connection with oneself.
- You may like being alone because you are a solid introvert and that’s okay.
- Trauma. Whether it’s childhood or recent trauma, trauma can be a great cause as to why you like being alone. For me personally, trauma has played a role in preferring to be alone. Sometimes I feel that if I avoid people, the less likely I’ll be to being exposed to individuals that may trigger my emotions in a negative way. Even though I think like this at times, I still force myself to be around people and everything turns out just fine.
Positives That Arise from Solitary Moments
Finding time to be alone can have numerous benefits for individuals. Embracing solitude allows one to reconnect with oneself, reflect on personal thoughts and emotions, and delve into creative endeavors. Moreover, alone time offers an opportunity for personal growth and self-discovery.
It allows for introspection, deepens one’s understanding of oneself, and encourages the development of independence and resilience. In addition, disengaging from the demands of social interactions provides a chance to recharge and rejuvenate, enhancing overall well-being. Ultimately, the positives that stem from alone time are invaluable for personal development and maintaining a balanced and fulfilled life.
- One positive thing that I have found about alone time is it gives you time to really find yourself and process the way you feel.
- Writing things down in a diary/journal is a great way to express your feelings. Journaling is something I’ve loved to do since childhood and I still continue this as an adult. You’ll be surprised how therapeutic writing in a diary/journal can be.
- If you get upset about something, taking a minute to be alone will help you stay calm, and get a clear perspective on your thoughts before returning to loved ones.
- Time spent alone can be an opportunity to rest, recharge, and rejuvenate both physically and mentally. It provides a chance to escape the demands of daily life and prioritize self-care.