The heading says it! This is a very important tip in relationships. The way you speak to each other will have a great impact on the energy in your relationship, and this was something I personally had to learn myself.

Give your partner compliments sometimes on their cooking, or even when he/she brings you something from the bathroom, say thanks. Being kind to each other in my opinion, is very simple, and that very simple gesture can bring so much life to the relationship.

One rule my special person and I have is, when it’s time to chow down, phones are also down. I’m adult enough to admit that my husband and I spend A LOT of time on our phones. It was very noticeable, so I suggested that when we go out to eat or when we eat together at home, that we not interact with our phones.

He thought that wasn’t a bad idea. Granted, we do not eat together every single day but when we do, this is now a habit for us. As soon as we eat together the phones are down. We both caught up and talk without phone usage, like it’s 1993!

This is a personal golden rule for myself. Going to therapy was where I got my first taste of constructive criticism when it came to my relationship. I didn’t realize that there were parts of me that were a bit controlling. Someone else had to tell me this, my Therapist. I felt in my mind that things had to be perfect, perfect, perfect! I know this mind set came from seeing things so imperfect in my life when I was a little girl.

I thought, in my mind that this or that had to be done before I was 30, etc. Putting an age deadline on everything in your life will drive you nuts.

I’ll admit I get annoyed when my husband wouldn’t do things like I did around the house like for example, cook something without me asking. My therapist told me to stop asking him to cook and that I don’t have to have dinner on the table every night. She said “make it a habit to not feel like you have to make dinner simply because you think that’s want you are suppose to do.” In other words, let him choose, don’t demand it. When I stopped asking, he actually started cooking on his own. While it may not be all the time, he will still do it without he bugging him about it. The last thing I ever want to be is a controlling person.