Get Excited About Your 30s
Hellooooo 30something! Your 30s is pretty much the second half of your 20s I’m just going to go ahead and say it. This may be hard for younger people to believe, but I was truly looking forward to my 30s. I didn’t really like my 20s because all I did was work like a dog, and I didn’t feel like I was living at all. Just Work Work Work! That was going to change once I entered my 30s.
I sort of forced myself to live, to breathe, to relax! Worrying about my survival was what stressed me out all of the time. Even though I worried… everything was okay.
Where do you want your mind to move? Force yourself to look at your life through an adult lens, not the lens of the child you once were. I’m grateful for my life experiences good and bad. Those experiences shaped me to be me, and I like me. Life in my 30s has brought valuable lessons.
3 Main Things I Learned in My 30s…..So Far
1. Learning to Say No
You will always be in a place where you’re still finding yourself no matter what age you are. When I entered my 30s, I felt that I was in a better place when it came to knowing what I wanted. Learning to not be a “people pleaser” will come easier.
I know that most of us don’t like negative energy and confrontation. An important thing to know is that sometimes, confrontation will need to happen so others will understand that they are not entitled to treat you however they feel. You have to love yourself enough to stand up for yourself. Just simply settling because of XYZ wasn’t okay to me. I wanted to feel fulfilled, good, I wanted to feel happy. It’s okay to put yourself first sometimes. It’s not always selfish.
2. Listening to that Gut Feeling
I can’t tell you how many times I ignored my gut feeling and regretted it. The older you get the better the “listen to your gut” action will become. Being wise about a decision will bring you inner peace, in other words if your “state of mind is clear,” you will be okay and not in jail. Pick your battles wisely. Making harder choices will get easier the older you become.
3. Stop being so Hard on Yourself
I use to be under the impression that everything had to be done on an age timeline. For example I felt like a had to be married by a certain age, have a house by a certain age, have a certain job by a certain age.
The truth is, life by nature just doesn’t work like that way in the real world. I finished college at age 26, got married at 29 and became a mom at 33. When I was in my mid to late 20s, I was still pretty broke working a low paying job. Things moved so slow and I had to learn to accept that. Along with the understanding that I just had to go where ever the wind blew me.
When what I considered “Life Milestones” weren’t happening fast enough for me, I felt too exhausted to purposely make the effort to really reach them anymore. My husband and I were dating for 10 years when we decided to get married at the courthouse. We were in our mid-30s when we decided to become parents. If there is anything I would go back in time and tell myself, it would be to relaxxxxxxx. Please don’t feel like you are a failure, because you haven’t got to a certain “thing” in life just yet. You are doing just fine, trust me!